Betty Dettmer

Betty Jane Dettmer (Shaver)

Tuesday, September 8th, 1925 - Saturday, November 30th, 2019
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Betty Jane Shaver Dettmer, 94, died November, 30, 2019, at Atchison Senior village.

Services will be held at 11:00 AM, Wednesday, December 4, 2019 at Becker-Dyer-Stanton Funeral Home with burial to follow at Mt Vernon Cemetery. The family will receive friends one hour prior to the service at the funeral home. In lieu of flowers, memorial contributions are suggested to Atchison Public Library for large print books or Atchison County Food Pantry at First Christian cargo van fund and may be sent in care of the funeral home. Online condolences may be left at

She was born September 8, 1925, in Randolph, Kan., the daughter of Jacob and Ellen Mae Shaver. She attended schools in Riley County and moved to Atchison in 1948. She married David Dettmer on Oct. 20, 1943, at the First Christian Church in Manhattan. They were married for 53 years. He preceded her in death in 1996. Having had to leave school after the 8th grade to help on the family farm, she earned her GED in adulthood and went on to earn her Education for Ministry certification in the late 1980s. She was a talented seamstress, a great cook, a good guitar player, an impressive softball pitcher, and an avid reader. Although she was legendary for cutting someone's head off in almost every picture she took, she loved capturing memories with loved ones. And there was nothing she loved more than her family. A close second was being of service.

She was active in the First Christian Church (Disciples of Christ), serving as secretary of the board; chairman of the Outreach, Membership, and Christian Education committees; deaconess; elder; and youth group sponsor. She held every office in the Christian Women’s Fellowship group, and was president of the church sewing group, chairman of the church’s three prayer chains, and elder emeritus. She was a lifelong member of the Girl Scouts (active for more than 25 years) and was active in the Martha Washington Chapter No. 215 Order of Easter Star, and the community.

Also preceding her in death were her parents, two brothers, Ellis and Jake, and one sister Virginia. Betty is survived by two daughters, Betty Sue (Doug) Thomas, Atchison; Cindi (Ken) Nohe, Palm Harbor, Fla; one sister, Ellen Eppler, Topeka; five grandchildren; and four great-grandchildren.
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Service Details

  • Visitation

    Wednesday, December 4th, 2019 | 10:00am - 11:00am
    Wednesday, December 4th, 2019 10:00am - 11:00am
    Becker-Dyer-Stanton Funeral Home
    800 Kansas Ave
    Atchison, KS 66002
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  • Service

    Wednesday, December 4th, 2019 | 11:00am
    Wednesday, December 4th, 2019 11:00am
    Becker-Dyer-Stanton Funeral Home
    800 Kansas Ave
    Atchison, KS 66002
    Get Directions: View Map | Text | Email
    Rev. Russ Cooper
  • Interment

    Mt. Vernon Cemetery
    6920 Rawlins Rd
    ATCHISON, KS 66002
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Joyce Courtney

Posted at 06:08pm
Joyce Kanning Courtney and Nina Kanning Wuestling fondly remember Betty and her daughter from First Christian Church.

Dr John Growney & Staff

Posted at 02:25pm
Our deepest sympathy to the Family of Betty Dettmer. What a wonderful and caring lady Betty was. We will always remember her friendly smile and laughter. May you find comfort in all the loving memories that you have.

Tom Krusemark

Posted at 10:24pm
Betty was one of the kindest person I have ever known. Growing up in the Christian Church, she always went out of her way to express interest in what everyone was doing, and generally left an impression on me as someone who always cared about others before herself. I know her passing will leave a huge void for many, but know that she will always have a wonderful memory with many of us who experienced her kindness through the years. God Bless Betty Sue and Cindi and know she was loved and admired by many.

Dianne Pagel Posted at 12:07am

I have such fond memories of her when my parents would visit her & David. She lived a long life & I hope it was mostly good. Praying for you all at this time. Dianne (Shaver) Pagel

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